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“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not “get over” the loss of a loved one, but you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to.”
(Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and John Kessler) |
Grief and Loss counselling in Heidelberg
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Grief is one of the most uncomfortable and complicated emotions we, as humans, can experience. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a lost opportunity or relationship, estrangement, complex or terminal health issues, grief can become overwhelming and debilitating.
Grief is such a complex emotion because it includes so many big feelings all at once; sadness, anger, regret, guilt, depression. One minute you’re feeling almost ok - and the next, thrown straight back again into unimaginable despair. Many people experiencing grief can find it difficult to talk about. Others may really want to talk about it but find that they don’t have appropriate resources, or feel anxious about burdening their friends or family. The reality is that friends and family often simply don’t know how to deal with grief and you find them shutting you down or changing the subject to try to “cheer you up”. Either way, research shows that NOT talking is NOT helpful in processing grief. That’s when talking to a professional can help. We understand and know how to support grief. Come and sit with one of our grief counsellors today. |
Relieve Psychology
135 Bamfield Road
Heidelberg Heights
VIC 3081
Bellfield, Bundoora, Eaglemont, Epping, Ivanhoe, Kingsbury, McLeod, Preston, Reservoir, Rosanna and
Viewbank
135 Bamfield Road
Heidelberg Heights
VIC 3081
Bellfield, Bundoora, Eaglemont, Epping, Ivanhoe, Kingsbury, McLeod, Preston, Reservoir, Rosanna and
Viewbank
Grief and Loss Counselling
Grief is associated with feelings of sadness, yearning, guilt, regret, and anger, among others. Some people may experience a sense of meaninglessness, and others can feel a sense of relief. Emotions are often surprising in their strength or mildness, and they can also be confusing, such as when a person misses a painful relationship.
Thoughts during grief can vary from “there’s nothing I can do about it” to “it’s my fault, I could have done more” or from “she had a good life” to “it wasn’t her time.” They can be troubling or soothing, and people in grief can bounce between different thoughts as they make sense of their loss. Grieving behaviors run from crying to laughter, and from sharing feelings to engaging silently in activities like cleaning, writing, or exercising. Some people find comfort in the company of others, particularly with those who may be similarly affected by the loss, and others may prefer to be alone with their feelings.
The different feelings, thoughts, and behaviors people express during grief can be categorized into two main styles: instrumental and intuitive. Most people display a blend of these two styles of grieving:
Instrumental grieving involves focusing primarily on problem-solving tasks while controlling or minimizing emotional expression.
Intuitive grieving is based on a heightened emotional experience that leads to sharing feelings, exploring the lost relationship, considering mortality, and identifying meaning in life.
There is no right or wrong way to experience grief, though some thoughts and behaviors after a loss can be more helpful or safe than others.
Source: GoodTherapy.org
Grief is associated with feelings of sadness, yearning, guilt, regret, and anger, among others. Some people may experience a sense of meaninglessness, and others can feel a sense of relief. Emotions are often surprising in their strength or mildness, and they can also be confusing, such as when a person misses a painful relationship.
Thoughts during grief can vary from “there’s nothing I can do about it” to “it’s my fault, I could have done more” or from “she had a good life” to “it wasn’t her time.” They can be troubling or soothing, and people in grief can bounce between different thoughts as they make sense of their loss. Grieving behaviors run from crying to laughter, and from sharing feelings to engaging silently in activities like cleaning, writing, or exercising. Some people find comfort in the company of others, particularly with those who may be similarly affected by the loss, and others may prefer to be alone with their feelings.
The different feelings, thoughts, and behaviors people express during grief can be categorized into two main styles: instrumental and intuitive. Most people display a blend of these two styles of grieving:
Instrumental grieving involves focusing primarily on problem-solving tasks while controlling or minimizing emotional expression.
Intuitive grieving is based on a heightened emotional experience that leads to sharing feelings, exploring the lost relationship, considering mortality, and identifying meaning in life.
There is no right or wrong way to experience grief, though some thoughts and behaviors after a loss can be more helpful or safe than others.
Source: GoodTherapy.org
